Being in my mid-twenties is so weird. Some of my friends are married with kids, while others are still single. I don’t feel like I’m as successful as I should be but I know I’m grateful for where I am. Slowly life is coming together. But it’s still not there yet. I don’t feel like I’ve hit my stride yet but I don’t feel so behind anymore.
Being a late bloomer sucks. I’m not going to sugarcoat it. It’s also weirdly being taken as a way to do reckless things because life didn’t go the way you thought, but it’s not. Here’s some things to do when you feel you’re a late bloomer.
Just Do It
I’m a very scared and shy person. I don’t think I will ever stop being this way. I calculate everything and need to always be prepared. But this is one of the things that has always hindered me. I’m a person who weighs her options a lot. Over time I learned that I was also the one holding myself back. Things aren’t just going to happen so I push myself to at least try things and not expect them to come to me.
But Have Boundaries
I’ve seen people take their late bloomer status to do whatever they want later on because at one time they couldn’t. Boundaries are always important. It sucks to feel like you’ve missed out on parts of life but that doesn’t mean you can’t say “no” to some things that are not beneficial to you.
Life is Not What You Think It Is
I feel what also hinders us a lot is the expectation of what life should be. When we see others and their lives it gives us an expectation that is not always real. No matter how put together someone seems to be, they will never be 100% perfect. You might not know that someone also feels like they’re falling behind,
Honestly Enjoy It
Does it suck to feel like life hasn’t started yet? Of course. But having things be familiar for longer isn’t so bad. Enjoy the comfort of the life you live. One day they will change so for now just enjoy it and rest.