Single. What a season to be in. It’s no secret that the more we get older, the more pressure we receive to find someone and settle down. It’s strange why that happens, but the notion puts singles in this uncomfortable situation and the word “single” becomes a forbidden, cringe-worthy word that makes you want to cry into a tub of ice cream. I feel since I am a single gal, I have a thing or two to say about the subject because quite honestly, being single is great and there is no greater time to learn and love yourself as this season. So in this month of February filled with red, pink, and flowers, let’s talk about being single.
I like to think of myself as a young person, I’m still in my early twenties. And yes, I am still very single. I’m going to me honest, sometimes I fall into the sad pit while looking through Instagram and seeing all these couples and just ponder the meaning of life. I have tons of friends that are already married and have kids and here I am. Here’s the thing, I like being single. I enjoy going to Disneyland all the time and not having to alter those plans. I like doing exactly what I want and not feel like I have to split my time. Does that sound selfish? Maybe it is, but this is time I can get over it and fully focus on myself before I can commit to someone else. On a more positive side of that, I genuinely want to use this time to cement who I am and make positive changes, for myself.
Love yourself. Treat yourself with respect. You are worthy of it all. Don’t think that someone else has to validate you. Learn your worth during this time, even though the pressure does pack on when time goes on, but just figure yourself out. I must admit that I struggle with this, but looking towards the inside makes this time not seem like a dread. You are the first person you’re going to love, so use this time to invest yourself and you will be prepared and know your worth when the time comes.
No, You’re Not Cursed
Maybe cursed is a harsh word, but you catch my drift. Don’t fall into a mentality that something is wrong with you or that you’re the short stick and life hates you. This is maybe not your time or you have to analyze your surroundings. Maybe you’re not looking in the right places.
It’s Okay to Want a Relationship…
Have you ever encountered a person who rolls their eyes whenever a single person wishes to be in a relationship because they deem them desperate? First off, be nice to people always, I mean come on. Two, let people be. Maybe someone is legitimately ready for a relationship and they’re actively seeking. It’s okay to want a relationship.
…But Focus on You
BUT, don’t let wanting to be in a relationship be your whole focus. If there’s anything you should take from this post is to let your single season be a time where you can improve yourself. Look at the positive in this season and ignore what the stress and the buckets of ice cream. Just be happy and improve you! If you can be happy now, you will make better decisions down the line.
What’s the best advice you have received as a single person? If you’re already in a relationship, what wisdom can you pass on? We’re all in this together!