Let’s Talk: What Self-Care Really Is

Let’s Talk: What Self-Care Really Is

Self-care has become a thing. I’ve even talked about it before. Self-care has become a buzzword we throw around when we want to focus on our lifestyle. Let’s talk about what self-care really is. I feel like self-care is a good thing but a lot of people have started to miss the context of what it’s supposed to be. So now more people are brushing it off as a trend thing. But it’s so much more than putting on a face mask and calling it a day.

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It’s More than Bath Bombs

Self-care is regularly seen as taking a bath and having candles all around and simply relaxing. And yes, self-care can have those things. But the overall main idea of self-care is to do things that will genuinely make you happy or gives you peace. It’s not meant to just focus at the external but it’s suppose to take care of you from the inside.

Take Care of Yourself

Still have your bath bombs and face masks but also take care of yourself in the inside. This can mean cutting people out of your life that are toxic. It can mean changing jobs or a situation you’re in. It can also be eating healthier or starting a new hobby. Self-care can be anything as long as you are taking care of yourself in the best way. You need to have peace in your life and sometimes things don’t have a temporary solution. As long as you do something that gives you genuine joy, that is truly what self-care is.

What are your thoughts on self-care?

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My Easy Everyday Hairstyles with TRESemmé

My Easy Everyday Hairstyles with TRESemmé



My hair can get really unruly. I never know what my natural hair is doing and since it’s thick, I always have to style it to make it look nice. It means I have to get creative and do my hair in ways that will stay but still be cute. I also never realized how many baby hairs I have until now and it is a new thing I have to tame. Here are my easy everyday hairstyles with TRESemmé.

TRESemmé has a new line of Compressed Micro-Mist Hairsprays that fits all your needs! They are easily available at Walmart and are affordable. The micro-mist line contains different hairsprays for texture, smooth, boost, and extend. I’m not a fan of traditional hairspray because I hate my hair feeling hard or like there’s a lot of product.

Everyday Waves

My ultimate go to look is this one. I simply blow-dry my hair and go back with a curling wand and choose random strands to curl. This is where product is so important! For this look the TRESemmé Compressed Micro Mist Hairspray Texture is huge because it gives my hair a better look and feel than just simple curls. My hair is the type of hair that doesn’t hold a style when it’s too straight so it helps to keep it intact. But I love that it gives it a messy look, which I love!

My Easy Everyday Hairstyles with TRESemmé

One Sided Sweep

I recently got a cartilage piercing on my right ear and I love it! I had to deal with letting it heal and then finding a way to show it off so the one sided hair sweep became a favorite. Depending on how I feel, I either do small braid on the side or I just push it all back and hold it down with a bobby pin. This, however, means that all my flyaways, baby hairs, and even the bobby pin slipping is something I have to take care of. The TRESemmé Compressed Micro Mist Smooth spray makes sure everything stays in place. I feel like this can be such a classy look but can look super messy if it falls apart.

Headband Up-Do 

This was my ultimate go to style for the longest! All you need is a headband. Basically all you do is put the headband on and then tuck your hair inside it. It’s super easy and you can easily change up the vibe with any headband you choose. I put a touch of hairspray because some of my headbands are looser than others and this helps my hair stay in place and not slide out. 

What is your go to everyday style?

Check out TRESemmé’s new Compressed Micro-Mist line and tell me what’s your favorite one!

Let’s Talk: FOMO is a Thing

Let’s Talk: FOMO is a Thing

I took a break from Instagram and it was the wildest thing. Not just stopped posting but completely logged off the app. It seemed like an easy thing. I already don’t post everyday so what really was I missing? Well 24 hours passed and I was low key miserable. It sounds stupid because it is but I was wondering what everyone was up to. But it all came down to this, I was afraid I was going to miss something big and I realized FOMO is a thing.

I always thought I was above the whole FOMO thing. But I soon realized that I just wanted to be in the know and felt like I would be missing so much with this break. Why is this a thing honestly? But it made me realize that taking a break from Instagram was a good thing. So let’s talk about FOMO.

What is FOMO

FOMO stands for the fear of missing out. That’s it. It’s just the feeling that you will be missing out on something. It’s like getting invited to go out with friends but having to stay in and study and feeling like you’re missing everything. FOMO is there and we feel like we’re missing the things that are important. But think about it, are we really missing out on truly dire things?

Why Is This Happening

Again, I think social media has a big part to play in why this feeling has become a thing. We share everything and we see everything others do. We see people do cool things and wonder if we should do it too. For Instagram I wondered if I was missing someone’s big moment. But sitting back I just realized how ridiculous that is. We don’t have to be part of everything, yet we want to be.

Sometimes we say yes to things we shouldn’t say yes to because we simply fear we’ll be missing something. It’s important for us to step back in general and realize that life will continue happening and moments will come and go. It’s important to make the important experiences count than try to feel like we have to be part of everything.

Why do you think FOMO is a thing?

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Right Now

Right Now

Seasons. You either love them or you hate them. I’m the one that hates them. Most of the seasons of my life have been long and brought challenges that I had to dig deep. There’s nothing I loved more than imagining the end of it and the joy that it would bring. But what’s happening right now? 

I’m a daydreamer. My thoughts are consumed with the things as I feel like they should be and what’s to come. I get anxious with the now and search for the new thing. The right now stresses me out, to be honest. The right now isn’t perfect and sometimes there’s nothing you can do about it. But the right now is where God has you.

This is Right Now

I’m not one to put trust in the process, which is why the now makes me anxious. The thing is that the now isn’t bad. But I’m always thinking about something else. The past, the future, but never right now. Everything lately reminds me of the fact that I just need to focus on what’s in front of me right now. Unhappiness comes from thinking about the way things used to be or how you believe they should be.

It’s hard to live in the now when your eyes aren’t focused on God and what He has called you to do at this moment. The right now may not be the ideal place you want to be. It may be painful, boring, or you might not even see anything happening. Truthfully, we feel this way on our own because we’re not trusting God. Every step in our life has a purpose, even the ones we don’t seem to care about. Right now isn’t a stumbling block, it’s a step.

Isaiah 43:18-19 stood out to me, ““Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” God is sill going to do something, we just need to learn to let Him do His thing instead of trying to see life how we want it.

January in Review | ’18

January in Review | ’18
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Another year. Here we go. January is already over! Not going to lie, this month was a little weird for me so I’m glad it’s over. Very expectant for a better 2018. So here is January in review!


– Y’all I’m in love with Not Your Mother’s hair products. I’m back to leaving my hair naturally and since I’ve been using them, my hair has improved so much! I use the All Eyes on Me 10-in-1 Hair Perfecter and the Naturals Coconut Milk & African Marula Tree Oil High Moisture Smoothing Cream. It smells amazing and my curls are staring to come back to life!

– I’m not going to lie, I’m already looking at spring clothes and loving everything. What do you think will be the biggest trend?


– I’m SO excited for music this year! There’s so much that is going to be released and I can’t wait! Currently loving “Do Right” by Glades. Such a fun song and a really cool message.

– Yes, I saw The Greatest Showman and I loved it. That soundtrack is SO amazing. I never felt so inspired and emo at all one time.


– I”M GOING TO EUROPE! As a little treat for myself, I’m going to Paris, London, and Rome with Ultimate Break (not sponsored, fyi) after I graduate grad school. I’m so excited because I’ve never flown internationally so please give me all types of tips and tricks!

– There’s a lot of good changes going on in my life. Some I expected but some were complete curve balls. But I’m getting my life on track so that is always exciting.

Around the Web

– Fun fact: I’m taking a break from Instagram but it’s making me stay away from the internet in general. Stay tuned for something new next month.

What’s new with you this month?