Going back to school after undergrad was rough. I was mentally checked out in every way but I knew I wanted to get my master’s. It was quite a journey but I made it. Grad school was an interesting experience. I loved being part of a school again but at the same time I questioned it a lot. So here’s the truth about grad school.
Is It Really Needed?
I think this is the biggest thing people ask. My answer is that it depends on what career you want. I got my master’s in public relations, which I feel like in this field it isn’t really needed it. I personally just wanted to get it. But there are other fields where you have to have it to move forward. So make sure to research thoroughly and analyze why you’re trying to do it.
Is It Harder?
Yes and no. There is a bigger level of expectation because, in my program at least, we were expected to know a lot of the things and were merely building from it. Speaking from my experience, my professors presented us the material and we did the work. Yes, we learned but they expected us to already know all the foundation. This is important because I went from journalism in undergrad to PR in grad school, so I had to teach myself some things. I would say it is a bit more challenging and moves at a faster pace.
Compared to Undergrad
Undergrad teaches you all the main tools for your field. For me, I felt like grad school builds upon that and makes you dig deeper. So instead of learning a concept, we are taking the concept and analyzing it in how it’s supposed to work. Again from my experience, my program was more about the application of it and gathering the research, whereas undergrad was learning about them. It may depend on the program as well, so it’s important to look into that.
Final thoughts: I enjoyed grad school. I personally wanted to do it because I wanted to earn my hood and see how far I can take my education. If you value education and/or need to get ahead in your career, I say go for it. But don’t sweat it if you don’t think it’s for you.
No one wants to admit that they are prideful. We try to navigate ways to be prideful. For example, being proud about someone can seem like pride we’re okay with. Then there’s the pride where someone is constantly trying to show off. I’m going to speak from a personal place because as much as I hate to admit it, this is something I struggle with. Let’s about about why pride can get ugly.
Let’s Talk: Pride Can Get Ugly
Handy Google defines pride as “a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.” See it doesn’t seem bad. I recently got my master’s and I’m proud of myself, especially because I didn’t think I would finish. So when is it that pride gets ugly?
In a world where doing things for the ‘gram is a thing (again, speaking from experience) this is where it gets tricky. Putting things out there just to show off and make people jealous is just wrong. You can be genuinely excited about something and that’s great but when it becomes simply about showing off and gloating then that’s when it needs to be put on check.
I’m a pretty flawed person who is trying to correct my mistakes as I go. This has been a big thing for me to learn. Sometimes I wonder if something needs to be said or posted because I question my motives behind it. I can be excited about something but if I’m only doing it to shove it in people’s faces, then I’m doing things for the wrong reasons. Be excited for your life because you truly are happy. Not just because you want to show yourself better than others.
How do you handle pride?
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Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. | Song of Solomon 8:4
I remember years ago sitting at a youth service and first hearing this verse. Of course it was around Valentine’s Day and the message was all about waiting on God and lovey dovey things. It’s a good verse and a great reminder to not force something. But this is something we so easily forget. Do not awaken love seems easy but it’s tough.
Do Not Awaken Love
I’m a girl and I love love. Rom-Coms are my thing. I love Christmas movies because they’re so cheesy and so cute. As I get older and I see more friends getting married and such, it gets tough not going to lie. I went to a college where “ring by spring” was a thing and so many people I knew got married quickly. Things like this make it important to remember Song of Solomon 8:4. It seems simple to find someone and date them and if they’re good enough, just settle down. But I feel like people often force love and it ends up getting messy.
I love that this is a real verse in the Bible. The fact that God has something to say about our love lives is great. It all comes down to not forcing things to happen that are not in God’s time. When it comes to sharing your life with someone, it can be harder when it’s not God’s plan because it will hurt deeply. It is so easy to get impatient when we see other people living out their lives and happily ever afters.
Waiting for something is never easy. But acting on our own behalf instead of leaving God to do His thing will make things more complicated. This verse is honestly great advice and just a reminder that all things come at the right time. Do not awaken love until it so desires. It’s hard but will be worth it.
What are your thoughts on this?
For as long as I can remember, I’ve loved writing. The idea of going to college wasn’t so clear to me growing up. I knew that people did that after high school but I didn’t know what to do. So after high school I went off to college knowing I wanted to write but no idea where. I flipped flop from being an English major to a Communication major all throughout my first two years of undergrad. I just knew I had to do something. So in the words of Lin-Manuel Miranda, “I wrote my way out.”
I Wrote My Way Out
Going to grad school seemed completely out of the question. I had no idea what I would do but I was determined. I didn’t want to just be content with a bachelor’s and if I could get more, I would. It was a long process of applying and deferring. I don’t know what it was but May 2017 I decided to just start school.
I ended up loving grad school. But before my last semester I got cold feet and almost stopped. However after some good advice, I went back. Now here I am completely done and graduated.
“I wrote my way out” means a lot to me because I feel like no one thought writing would get me anywhere. I have a screenshot from someone from high school telling me this. But here I am. What I learned in grad school has helped me so much in my career and this blog. Writing has opened new avenues and adventures that I never thought would happen.
This master’s degree is just a symbol of all the things I can do. I know that there’s still more out there. Things are possible and I can make it work with the gifts I have. Here’s to one milestone!
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Don’t call it a comeback! If you didn’t notice, I took a bit of a break this month. Ya girl was busy this month. I decided to take a break so I can power through my last few weeks of grad school. So I’m back now that I’m done! I’m tired but I’m excited to spend more time on the blog. Here is April in review.
– I went to Ulta and SPLURGED. I got a lot of amazing products but one of my favorites is the Redken Diamond Oil Glow Dry. If put heat on your hair, this is a must! It makes hair feel soft and the plus side is that it smells so good! This is now my go to hair product.
– I’m obsessed with the Josie Maran Vibrancy Argan Oil Foundation. I actually had this in my stash but recently decided to try it out and I can’t believe I haven’t worn it more. It blends out so well and gives a great glow!
– ARCTIC MONKEYS FINALLY ANNOUNCED A NEW ALBUM. This is the news I’ve been waiting for. I can’t wait to hear it.
– I’m on the hunt for any new music. Doesn’t matter the genre. Drop some suggestions!
– The biggest thing is that I’m done with grad school! It’s been rough but I can finally say I have no homework for the rest of my life.
– I’m learning to lay low a bit more. I’m trying to enjoy life and the people who I have around.
Around the Web
– Kanye West got his Twitter back and it’s been wild. Follow for some thoughts and wildness. It keeps you entertained.
I’m so excited to create new content on here soon! What’s new with you this month?
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