He's Just Not That Into You

He’s Just Not That Into You

Bringing back this spicy topic. I am not at all a relationship expert. I’ve been single my whole life. But as a girl who loves rom-coms, boys are a thing. All my life I heard about how I need to guard my heart and I never realized how true that is until the last few years. One of the harsh realities (and also a book and movie) is that sometimes, he’s just not that into you. The point of this post is not to talk about the guy but to remind you that if someone doesn’t like you back, it does not mean you are not worthy. Let me explain.

He’s Just Not That Into You and It’s Okay

It’s always hard to not determine your worth by what other people say. For girls, hearing that the guy we are crushing on doesn’t feel the same way makes things hard. My confidence used to be really shaky. So I would be super happy with myself but always felt like the guys I was interested in were out of my league and it would crush me. As much as it sucks to hear that someone doesn’t have feelings for you, that doesn’t determine your worth. You are amazing on your own and trust me, someone will come along that will appreciate you.

Letting Go for Yourself

I watch way too many cute movies and listen to love songs but I can’t focus on making that come to life on my own. I’ve been putting “letting go” into practice in all ways in my life and this is one of those parts. As girls, we shouldn’t focus on just trying to make a guy like us or getting our cute story. It’s going to happen at the right time. So let go of trying to make it happen and do things for you. A boy will never fulfill you if you’re struggling. As the great Christina Yang once said, “He’s very dreamy, but he is not the sun. You are.”

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