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Let’s Talk: The Now What

Let’s Talk: The Now What

A few months ago I graduated from grad school. Majority of the things people asked me during this time was “what’s next?” I know people meant well but the question ended up giving me anxiety. Figuring out what’s next is never easy. So let’s talk about the now what. As always, I’m talking from my own experience and how I’m working my way through it.

Let’s Talk: The Now What

Summer is always a break for everyone. No matter who you are, you know it’s a chill time and everything is fun. But as it starts winding down, that’s when reality hits. People go back to school, there’s no more holidays to be had, everything gets more serious.

I have a job after graduating grad school but I still had people asking if I was going to apply to other jobs and the future. I was feeling completely fine until I got the “now what?” questions. That’s what made me rethink everything. Should I really apply elsewhere? Should I continue school? I genuinely felt I had it together and would be at peace during the transition period until people kept asking.

For me, this is what made it hard. I get people had great intentions and wanted to know my plans but they were just stressing me out in the end. Then of course there was the whole comparison thing. There were people who would tell me about the people they knew in the same field as me and what they were doing. It made me question everything. I get it, they didn’t mean it to give me anxiety but that’s what these questions produce.

People are on different journeys and ending a chapter of life is always hard yet exciting. The now what is hard to navigate. Things will always figure themselves out but during that time, it’s hard to see clearly. If you’re not in this phase, just support those who are in noninvasive ways. If you’re in this phase, just know it will be okay. It’s all going to work out.


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Let’s Talk: Pride Can Get Ugly

Let’s Talk: Pride Can Get Ugly

No one wants to admit that they are prideful. We try to navigate ways to be prideful. For example, being proud about someone can seem like pride we’re okay with. Then there’s the pride where someone is constantly trying to show off. I’m going to speak from a personal place because as much as I hate to admit it, this is something I struggle with. Let’s about about why pride can get ugly.

Let’s Talk: Pride Can Get Ugly

Handy Google defines pride as “a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.” See it doesn’t seem bad. I recently got my master’s and I’m proud of myself, especially because I didn’t think I would finish. So when is it that pride gets ugly?

In a world where doing things for the ‘gram is a thing (again, speaking from experience) this is where it gets tricky. Putting things out there just to show off and make people jealous is just wrong. You can be genuinely excited about something and that’s great but when it becomes simply about showing off and gloating then that’s when it needs to be put on check.

I’m a pretty flawed person who is trying to correct my mistakes as I go. This has been a big thing for me to learn. Sometimes I wonder if something needs to be said or posted because I question my motives behind it. I can be excited about something but if I’m only doing it to shove it in people’s faces, then I’m doing things for the wrong reasons. Be excited for your life because you truly are happy. Not just because you want to show yourself better than others.


How do you handle pride?

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Let’s Talk: What Self-Care Really Is

Let’s Talk: What Self-Care Really Is

Self-care has become a thing. I’ve even talked about it before. Self-care has become a buzzword we throw around when we want to focus on our lifestyle. Let’s talk about what self-care really is. I feel like self-care is a good thing but a lot of people have started to miss the context of what it’s supposed to be. So now more people are brushing it off as a trend thing. But it’s so much more than putting on a face mask and calling it a day.

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It’s More than Bath Bombs

Self-care is regularly seen as taking a bath and having candles all around and simply relaxing. And yes, self-care can have those things. But the overall main idea of self-care is to do things that will genuinely make you happy or gives you peace. It’s not meant to just focus at the external but it’s suppose to take care of you from the inside.

Take Care of Yourself

Still have your bath bombs and face masks but also take care of yourself in the inside. This can mean cutting people out of your life that are toxic. It can mean changing jobs or a situation you’re in. It can also be eating healthier or starting a new hobby. Self-care can be anything as long as you are taking care of yourself in the best way. You need to have peace in your life and sometimes things don’t have a temporary solution. As long as you do something that gives you genuine joy, that is truly what self-care is.


What are your thoughts on self-care?

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Let’s Talk: FOMO is a Thing

Let’s Talk: FOMO is a Thing

I took a break from Instagram and it was the wildest thing. Not just stopped posting but completely logged off the app. It seemed like an easy thing. I already don’t post everyday so what really was I missing? Well 24 hours passed and I was low key miserable. It sounds stupid because it is but I was wondering what everyone was up to. But it all came down to this, I was afraid I was going to miss something big and I realized FOMO is a thing.

I always thought I was above the whole FOMO thing. But I soon realized that I just wanted to be in the know and felt like I would be missing so much with this break. Why is this a thing honestly? But it made me realize that taking a break from Instagram was a good thing. So let’s talk about FOMO.

What is FOMO

FOMO stands for the fear of missing out. That’s it. It’s just the feeling that you will be missing out on something. It’s like getting invited to go out with friends but having to stay in and study and feeling like you’re missing everything. FOMO is there and we feel like we’re missing the things that are important. But think about it, are we really missing out on truly dire things?

Why Is This Happening

Again, I think social media has a big part to play in why this feeling has become a thing. We share everything and we see everything others do. We see people do cool things and wonder if we should do it too. For Instagram I wondered if I was missing someone’s big moment. But sitting back I just realized how ridiculous that is. We don’t have to be part of everything, yet we want to be.

Sometimes we say yes to things we shouldn’t say yes to because we simply fear we’ll be missing something. It’s important for us to step back in general and realize that life will continue happening and moments will come and go. It’s important to make the important experiences count than try to feel like we have to be part of everything.


Why do you think FOMO is a thing?

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Let’s Talk: Friends

Let’s Talk: Friends

The older I get, the more people say it’s harder to make good friends. And they’re all right. In school you had a sea of people and situations that could change month to month. When you have a full time job, you are in the same group of people for hours. One of the reasons the whole idea of friends came to mind is because I’ve been seeing how it’s playing out in my life. So let’s talk about friends.

Keep ‘Em Close

I’m not a very good friend, I must admit. I suck at replying at texts and setting up plans. But the only reason I wanted to talk about this was because I learned one thing: keep your friends close. In college I made really good friends. Many of which I still see and keep in touch. But I feel like I took those friends for granted.

This is one of the reasons my word for this year is focus. I have a good group of people around me but I never really put my time and energy into making our friendships great. One of my friends will literally go out of her way and continue to rejoice in my news even if we don’t see each other as often. That’s just amazing to me. I have a hard time believing people can just genuinely be caring towards me so every little detail makes a big difference.

Everyone needs someone to talk to. It doesn’t have to be a big group of people but at least one person they can just share things with. It’s still a concept that I need to grasp and I need to be better about being there for the people I care about. But investing in friendships are very important.


What’s your opinions about making and keeping friends as an adult?

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