I like to hold on to things for as long as I can. Obviously that doesn’t always last and things have to change. It’s honestly a good thing that things change. We may not always decide when that happens so we have to make it work the best we can. They’re opportunities to see how you’ve grown and analyze what you truly want to do next. However, one of the hardest things is seeing everyone around you move forward while you feel stuck. It makes you anxious and you’re trying to figure out how you fit into everything. So here’s what you can do when everyone is moving on.
Don’t Struggle in the Quicksand
I’m sure you’ve seen a movie or a cartoon where someone is stuck in quicksand. They usually sink faster when they panic and try to wiggle out. That’s the first thing that happens to me when I see things changing. I panic and make dumb decisions just because I want to feel like I am doing something productive or also moving forward. But that makes it worse. It’s hard and easier said than done but it’s important to just be calm. We try to jump and make things happen that are the wrong thing. So breathe and be logical.
Be Happy for Them
It’s hard letting friends go and seeing them move on, but be happy for them. I know it’s easy to feel the pang of jealousy or bitterness but that will not help you. Don’t feel like they are abandoning you or moving faster than you. Genuinely be happy for their opportunities. They may have felt the same way at one point and now is there time so support them.
Everything at its Time
Sometimes this whole season gets harder because we refuse to see how things are changing. Then we find ourselves stuck and anxious. Seasons will always happen in life so don’t dwell and feel like this is forever. Wherever you’re at right now, look at the positive, and look ahead. Don’t just think of getting out of this season but stay proactive and your time will come.
How do you deal with things changing?